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Good News, Sad News & Decisions Going Forward February 9, 2008

Posted by Tori in Moms, Pregnancy.
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On Thursday, January 31, my daughter turned two. It’s an amazing place to be. She’s so grown up. I’ve also been thinking for awhile that I’m ready to try for number two. So my happiness was great when I did not get my period last week. I took a test on Wednesday and it was negative. I tested again on Thursday and it was faintly positive. It being so early, I went out and bought another test on Friday and took it that night. Another positive.

We had Piper’s birthday party on Saturday, and because I’m not so good with that kind of secret, we told our families and close friends. I’d had light spotting, but that isn’t all that uncommon for early pregnancy.

Monday night, before I left work, I noticed heavy spotting. It stopped by the time I got home, and while there was some cramping, I felt okay and thought I would be fine after a night’s rest. When I woke up on Tuesday, I knew something wasn’t right. I attempted to go into work because it was THE busy day of the month, but my boss sent me home after I told her what was going on. So I made an appointment with my doctor’s office.

At the doctor, I received an ultrasound and blood work. The ultrasound showed nothing, which was expected because I was less than five weeks along. I stayed home the following day as well because I did not feel well and the doctor’s nurse had indicated that I might need to come back in for more blood work. When the doctor’s office called, I missed it. When I called back, I got the message the nurse had left, which was that my hcg level was zero and that I must have had a false positive on my test.

I was shocked, and I explained to the phone nurse that I’d purchased tests at two different times and that the results both showed positive, and that I found it highly unlikely that I would get two false positives. So she said she would have my doctor (or her nurse) call me back. When I received that call, I explained what I knew to my doctor’s nurse. She told me that my doctor had never seen a zero level that quickly after a miscarriage. She also agreed that it did seem very statistically unlikely to have tests purchased at two different times show positive. So it seemed a wash that the truth would ever be known.

Since then, I’ve done some research on my own, and I’ve developed a theory. I believe that I had a chemical pregnancy, and that while my levels were high to be seen on my home pregnancy test, they were mostly likely dropping by the time I took the second test, which gives my already low level four days to drop to zero before the doctor’s test. Plus, I know that my hormones do weird things in my body. I ovulated two weeks after I had Piper, regardless of the fact that I was pumping 4+ ounces every three hours. The hormones from breastfeeding are supposed to suppress the period, but that didn’t work so well for me.

Regardless, the hope and the pain are in the past now, and though my husband says we weren’t officially trying (A big WHATEVER, that I will address a different day), we’ve decided that we want to now. We were both really excited and happy by the news, and while I knew exactly how much I wanted another child, I think this helped him realize how much he wanted another child.

So onward and upward! We officially trying to have another child.



1. Arachne Jericho - February 9, 2008

Good luck to you, for another child. At least your husband is now totally onboard.

On the way side, I’ve seen lots of husbands be diffident about the whole having kids thing, but that’s never seemed to stop things. 🙂

2. tjwriter - February 9, 2008

This is true. He claims I bugged him about it until he gave in the first time. This will be an exciting adventure for sure. It’s joyful and scary to think about trying to handle more than one kid. You see other people do it, but you also know that the whole dynamic, one you just reached a comfortable level at, is going to change again.

Ah, well, life’s all about changes anyway.

3. Soccer Mom - February 11, 2008

Two is very survivable. You have to switch from double-team to man-to-man coverage, but you’ll learn to adjust. Mine are very different and I truly enjoy each child.

BTW: If you try for a third, you’ll have to learn a zone defense. Just sayin’

4. Shadow Ferret - February 11, 2008

I so cannot relate. When my first reached age 2 I was NOT thinking he was grown up and I certainly wasn’t thinking about having more. In fact, I was thinking “how do I get out of this!?” In my mind, a 2-year-old is the cure for people thinking they want kids.

5. tjwriter - February 11, 2008

I can agree with that, too. She drove me nuts all weekend long. Two and three year olds are the total test drive for parenthood.

6. Dawn - February 12, 2008

Aww, TJWriter.. how sad. 😦 I’m so sorry, but glad you have come to terms with it. Just a few paragraphs into your blog, I said to myself, “chemical pregnancy.” The tests are sooo sensitive these days. I’m surprised the doctors acted confused and didn’t site it as a chemical pregnancy from the start.

To make *some* sense of the reading I did… all the doctors that were showing up now make sense. (I just saw the Kings as doctors for some reason.) I feel strongly that those three cards *were* about the (chemical) pregnancy, but will try to reinterpret to make sense of it if you’d like. It could have more to do with you ‘sticking to your guns’ about wanting a baby, even more so now, and you’re husband saying “we’ll see…” Wow… I almost re-threw the cards when I couldn’t make sense of them… I should have trusted my instincts there and asked you how things were going first. 😉

I’m very, very sorry.


7. tjwriter - February 13, 2008

We’ve both agreed that if something was going to go very wrong, we’d rather it be early like this than later on.

It was disappointing, but we’ll be trying again very soon.

I don’t see a need to reinterpret. It does make sense.

8. Lori Basiewicz - February 22, 2008

*Hugs* and good luck, Tori.

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